You are not alone.
Here are excerpts from inquiries we have received. If you see yourself or someone you love or care about, know that you are not alone.
“ My husband is a sex addict . . .
and a compulsive masturbator who suffers enormously with this addiction. I, as his wife, know better than anyone else just exactly how deep rooted and how vast this problem is for him, and how embarrassed he feels about it.”
"My husband does not seem to have any sexual desire . . .
He does not suffer from ED. We have only a little intimacy in our relationship and intercourse barely once a year. Recently I expressed to him that I have realized that I am not able to live the rest of my life without this kind of intimacy with my spouse. And, I also admitted that I am feeling tempted to go outside our relationship (as I did in the past). I also told him that I am willing to do whatever it will take to ‘fix’ it.”
“My husband and I are experiencing marital problems . . .
that we cannot seem to fix. We have a 15-month-old son who, we feel, has nothing to do with these issues. Primarily we have problems with intimacy, and have probably since the beginning of our 7-year relationship, and now we find we are beginning to lose our friendship, as well. We desperately want to save our marriage.”
“I’m seeking help for overcoming what I believe is performance anxiety . . .
I can get an erection on my own and while sleeping, but things don’t work as easily when I’m with my wife. I have had this condition for pretty much as long as I’ve been sexual active. I have gone to the doctor and have a prescription which helps a bit but not enough.“
“I seriously think there is something wrong with me . . .
and I think it’s causing issues between my boyfriend and me. I have been having sex for the last 5 years and have tried everything, and I have still not been able to orgasm. I just don’t know where to go to get some answers. I tried asking my doctors, but they just look at me funny like why are you asking me this, and then tell me that my boyfriend just isn’t putting enough effort into getting me off, but I know that’s not the case. I’ve spent hours trying to get myself off, and I can’t even do that even with toys or anything. I’m worried that I won’t be able to have a sexually pleasing relationship with anyone ever, and that will ultimately doom me to remain single forever.”