How We Can Help

Sexual concerns do not exist in a vacuum. They are always connected to other issues within your self and your relationship.

Not everyone needs long term therapy. Many people simply need a safe place, and one or a few sessions, to talk about sex, to unload, ask questions, and receive accurate and non-judgmental information.

The good news is people don’t have to suffer. We know how to help you enjoy the exciting benefits of sexual wellness. We offer a safe, comfortable and inclusive space in which to examine your sexual and relationship values, issues and concerns. You will be able to examine who you are, where you may be stuck, your stumbling blocks and the issues which interfere with your having a satisfying and rewarding relationship in and out of bed. My office is a place where change happens.

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Sex therapy includes helping people learn to negotiate their sexual styles, take emotional risks, learn sexual communication and define monogamy or other relationship options, while also examining the paradox of love and desire in a committed relationship. We ask the hard questions.

We will help you understand and incorporate your eroticisms into your relationship. You will learn to use the tools and skills you already have while developing new, more successful relationship strategies. If you are single, you can learn skills to find a partner and to be able to communicate your desires.

We can help couples examine outside affairs with integrity, process accountability, re-envision a post-affair relationship and explore erotic recovery, or also help you decide when divorce is the best option and learn how to leave with honour.

Some typical sexual concerns, problems and dysfunctions that we address.

  • Polyamory
  • Passion & Pleasure
  • Painful Intercourse
  • Midlife & Older Sex
  • Lubrication Problems
  • Low Sexual Desire
  • Intimacy Issues
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Gender Identity

 

  • Fetishes
  • Delayed Ejaculation
  • Coping with Erectile Difficulties
  • Becoming Orgasmic
  • BDSM
  • Arousal Issues
  • Alternative Lifestyles
  • Rapid Ejaculation
  • Religious Boundaries
  • “Sex or Porn Addiction?”
  • Sexual Compulsivity
  • Sexual Mythologies
  • Sexual Orientation
  • Sexual Satisfaction
  • The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation
  • When Sex Isn’t Good
  • Worrisome Fantasies

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy uses specialized skills and specific treatment approaches to sexual problems and relationship issues. It helps you clarify, set goals and resolve sexual questions or difficulties which affect you and your relationship. Sometimes physical difficulties prevent or diminish sexual pleasure. In other instances, sexual communication and intimacy may seem difficult, and unsatisfying.

How does sex therapy work?

Choosing to begin sex therapy takes confidence to risk speaking about and sharing some very private information about oneself. Your therapist will do an assessment and, when appropriate, a full social and sexual history. You finish therapy when you have accomplished your goals. At all times, you are in charge of the pace, type of growth and the changes that you make. Sex therapy sessions are confidential.

Is sex therapy for you?

Sex therapy is helpful to couples, families and individuals. In fact, sexual concerns are often major factors which prevent people from forming satisfying relationships. People of various ages are seen in therapy. People from all walks of life experience sexual difficulties and want accurate sexual information. Also cultural taboos, shyness or embarrassment about sex affect many people.

For many couples who are interested in sexual enrichment, therapy is a safe place to acquire appropriate information and explore new behaviours.

What does sex therapy treat?

Many issues are appropriate for counselling, including sexual communication and negotiation. Other topics may be frequency, mutually agreeable behaviours, extra-marital sex and managing jealousy, lack of desire or boredom with routine. Some men may have problems with erections or ejaculation and women may have concerns about orgasm, painful intercourse or lubrication. For both partners there are sexual changes through life’s stages, including the effects of pregnancy and parenting, questions in mid-life, menopause and aging, and sexual activity following illness, surgery or disability.

We also see people who have had sexual trauma: are recovering from sexual assault, sexual harassment, sexual exploitation as a child and other coercive sexual experiences. We also help people become comfortable with less common eroticisms, behaviours and fetishes.

Is it always therapy?  How about relationship and individual counselling?

Although your sexual history reflects how you interact in many other areas of your life, not all issues that bring you to therapy are of a sexual nature. We can help you create or change a relationship, including contracting an alternative lifestyle or dissolution. We assist you to perceive options, make choices and resolve your concerns.

How do you start?

We understand sex therapy takes confidence to risk speaking about and sharing some very private information about oneself. Fear and embarrassment often keep people from discussing sexual dysfunction.  Simply put, reaching out with an email or phone call is the first step to address your specific needs.  Interaction is warm and relaxed and all communication is held in the strictest confidence.